Seeing yourself as a winner.

Meeting the new challenge of the Gi, compliments of my coach Tim Murphy!

I often ask my kids in class, do they enjoy winning?

Usually their hands raise up quite fast. because I’ve been programming them, been building them to enjoy winning.

A lot of people feel it’s wrong to put pressure on people to win or to rise to the highest level. But secretly they wish they had the key to doing it.

Sometimes fighters in our club lose because they won’t allow themselves to dream about being the best. Because in their day to day life and work they are programmed to be mediocre and not rock the boat. So they fit in.

This is a load of bullsh**t.

But the secret to achievement is to be programmed from a young age.

For example I’ve had a kid training with me for years. He recently fought in his first amateur MMA match. He really was a lion let out of the cage. He ran through his opponent with fury, dominance and the thought of losing never crossed his mind.

The next day he fought in another tournament against a lot of eager fighters like himself. Though he lost one match he had the iron will not to break. He ended up winning the whole section in the final.

He has a long way to go but understands how to enjoy winning and seeing himself as a winner. He always shouts yes or jumps in the air after winning because he knows how hard it’s been to do it.

People want to win but their self image and the subconscious thoughts in the brain are holding them back.

Life can be cruel and circumstances that we cannot control damage our belief in ourselves. For years when I worked in the system I would sit down at the canteen tables and listen to the mob of negativity. And not to go all Uriah Faber on you but positivity is the biggest ingredient in this.

Sometimes you need role models to show you the way in life. Be they parents or coaches or really good friends.

For me I have lots of wonderful people who are winners surrounding me. So everyday it bulletproofs me to life.

I make a point never to stick around negative people for very long. And I think this is what a lot of people should realise and start doing. Cut it away and the seams will be strong.

I do believe people should do martial arts, but not the safe ones. You must feel like you are on the edge of the cliff to really understand what you were given life for.

There is a saying that a man who has faced death at the point of a sword has an elevated understanding of life.

If you look at it MMA has gotten so popular because it pushes the boundaries and more and more people want to feel this. And believe me fighting in the cage is better than any drug. ( I’ve never taken drugs but that’s my opinion, dammit!)

The only way to build real confidence is to face hard situations and come out through them and getting into the cage , even if it only in class is a great starting point for that.

Because I believe in myself so much as a winner I’ve gone out and looked for harder challenges and starting in 2012 I’ll be on the Cage Contender roster. There I’ll have the chance to face more opponents that want and know how to win just as much as me.

All of these steps will hopefully make me reach the pinnacle of my profession.

This is a quote that I love.

“History shall be kind to me for I intend to write it! ” – Winston Churchill

I’m really enjoying writing mine.

Happy New Year to all my Alpha Female Followers. I’ve given you your starting point.

Now go do it!

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